Lily Cockerell: An Autobiography
Publisher: Mrs. Berglund
About the Author
I was born in Dallas, Texas on June 6, 1997. I have lived in Dallas my whole life. I am a Junior at Highland Park High School and will be graduating in May of 2016. My parents, Clay and Brenda Cockerell, are very successful and I hope to be like them one day. My dad, Clay, is a Dermatologist and a Dermatopathologist. He co-founded a skin cleanser called CLn Body Wash. My parents also own a vineyard called Coquerel Family Wine Estates in Napa, California. My brother, Charlie, is nine years older than me so we have never been very close. He has overcome many problems with drugs and alcohol after going to rehab for five years so I really look up to him for being able to conquer this demon. Because of my brother and I's age difference, I basically live the only child life. To make up for not being very close to my brother, I am extremely close to my cousin, Kelsey, who is 2 years older than me. I view her as my older sister and she lives with my family in the summers and on breaks from school. I am always surrounded by my parents who tend to pamper me because they have no one else to spoil. When I graduate high school, I hope to go to Southern Methodist University, The University of Texas at Austin, or the University of Mississippi. I speak two languages: Spanish and English. I have been speaking Spanish since I was two years-old because my housekeeper, Abi, is from Guatemala and she only spoke to me in Spanish. I am very strong in my Christian faith and attend Church and Bible study regularly. Some fun facts about me are that I have a lot of pets. I own six cats, two dogs, and thirteen finches. Another fun fact about my life is that all of my uncle's names are in alphabetical order, chronological order of ages and they rhyme. Their names are Clay (my dad), Jay, Ray, and Tray.
Words to Describe Me
Happy, Funny, Intelligent
I am a very hard worker and I am very organized. I like to get things done promptly and efficiently with time to spare. I am very caring and compassionate because I like to make others feel better when they are going through a rough time. I also am very knowledgable and intelligent. I love to learn new things and then use that knowledge in the real world. I always know weird facts because of what I learn from documentaries and articles that I watch and read. I am very loyal and trustworthy to my friends. They can tell me anything and know that I will not tell anyone. Also I am not judgmental whenever someone confides in me and I am fully prepared to give them my honest opinion on the situation. Everyone is human and should not be judged for a simple mistake. I am also very silly, energetic, cheerful and happy! I love to laugh and make jokes! Many of my friends would agree that I am very funny. I also have a very serious side. I am logical, mature, and realistic. I think about things before I act on them and do not jump to conclusions. I am very independent and I am not afraid to take on a challenge alone;however, I can get very anxious and stressed out about not getting things done and doing them wrong. Whenever I am overloaded with work I have to remain calm or else I will get overly stressed out and anxious.
Comments from Publishers
It sounds like she learned to not be judgmental from her parents and the people she surrounds herself with! Since her parents are so successful I'm sure that she will achieve a lot in life from aspiring to be like her parents who are very successful. -Albert Bandura
She is able to express her feelings and is open to all experiences that life presents her. She strives to reach her full potential in order to be as successful as she can. She is able to act independently and do things on her own. She is working her way up to being a "Fully Functioning Person". -Carl Rogers
Her Cardinal Trait seems to be her comical manner and funny disposition. She is always looking to make someone laugh and crack a joke. Her Central Trait appears to be honesty because she wants to tell someone exactly what she thinks about the situation and what the person is doing wrong and how they can fix the problem. Her Secondary Trait is her tendency to get very anxious. Whenever she is faced with too much that she feels she cannot handle, whether is be conscious or subconscious, she becomes very anxiety ridden and overly stressed which can get in the way of getting the job done in the first place. -Gordon Allport
She does not feel superior to others because she does not see herself as better than others. Her lack of a judgmental personality shows this. According to my beliefs on the importance of birth order, since she is the youngest in her family and also practically an only child because of her brother's absence, she is slightly spoiled because her parents have no one else to buy things for and pamper. -Alfred Adler
Jean Piaget Timeline of Lily's Life
The Sensorimotor Stage occurs between the ages of birth to two years. During this stage, children learn to manipulate objects but do not realize that the objects do not disappear. For example, when playing peek-a-boo with a baby, they do not realize that their mother is still there and that she is just hiding behind her hands. Children during this stage achieve Object Permanence, or the realization that the objects does still exist although they cannot see it. Object Permanence occurs towards the end of the Sensorimotor Stage. During this stage, children also experience separation anxiety, or the theory of attachment to their caregiver. Children experiencing separation anxiety get extremely scared whenever their caregiver leaves them because they think that he/she will not return. Children also assimilate the things around them by creating schemas. For example, a child may assimilate all large, furry animals to be cows.
"Did I experience separation anxiety? If so, explain."
~ "Yes you did have separation anxiety. Whenever I would leave the room or leave you with a baby sitter you would cry and cry and cry because you didn't think I would come back! You only felt safe with your dad and I--everyone else, including your brother, were very scary to you. You were scared to be without me for a long time beyond 2-years-old." -Brenda Cockerell
The Preoperational Stage occurs between ages 2 and 7. During this stage, language is being developed rapidly. Children learn how to interact with their environment using words and phrases. Accommodation, or the realization that schemas have differences and children no longer group all like things into one. Animism, or giving life to inanimate objects, is prevalent during this stage. For example, I am pretending to be able to read this book while it is upside down. Children also exhibit Egocentrism, or a child's belief that everyone sees things the same way he/she does.Children experiencing egocentrism do not believe that others have different perceptions and feelings as they do. Also, they believe that inanimate objects feel the same emotions as they do. Conservation begins to develop during this stage when children are able to realize that something's quantity does not change although the shape changes. For example, 5 ounces of water in a short, fat glass is still 5 ounces in a tall, skinny glass. Due to a lack of reversibility, the ability to recognize that objects and numbers can be changed and returned back to their original form (which later develops in the Concrete Operational Stage), a child may have trouble understanding that although there appears to be more water in the taller and skinnier glass, it still has the same 5 ounces of water as the shorter and fatter glass. When the child only focuses on stimuli such as the height differences of the water in each glass, this is called Centration.
"Did I pretend a lot as a kid? What were my favorite toys?"
~ "You definitely had a vast imagination. You were constantly playing with Barbies and American Girl Dolls with your best friend Emily. Y'all would create elaborate stories with your dolls where one of them was a princess and the other was a fairy and they were best friends but it was a forbidden friendship so they had to keep it a secret. You always had some sort of story going." -Brenda Cockerell
"Was I very stubborn as a child? If so, please tell a story."
~ "Yes. You were extremely stubborn. It was a struggle for your Dad and I to get you to do something you didn't want to do! Your temper-tantrums involved plenty of kicking, screaming, and crying... One time when we were at our house in Colorado, you wanted to go skiing in the 10 degree weather in only a princess costume. Naturally, I refused to let you do that because I didn't want to see my precious daughter freeze to death. You, on the other hand, were not pleased. Immediately you started screaming and crying saying that you wanted to go skiing in your princess costume. I stood my ground and kept saying no. Suddenly you stopped crying and say 'okay fine.' and stormed off and I didn't think anything of it. Moments later I hear this loud, high pitched noise coming from my bathroom. I walked over to my bathroom and there you were holding my China and smashing it on the ground. You had destroyed about 6 or 7 of my plates all because you couldn't go skiing in your princess costume. Needless to say, you definitely did not go skiing with your friends and family for the rest of trip." -Brenda Cockerell
Concrete Operational Stage
This stage occurs between the ages of 7-12. These children are able to focus on more than one stimuli at a time and are able to understand the concept of grouping. For example, children begin to realize that although there are differences, a large dog and a small dog are still in the same species. In this stage, although children are able to understand grouping and slightly more complex concepts, abstract thinking has not developed yet. Simple math and reading
"Did I have trouble picking up more complex math like addition and subtraction? Was school hard for me?"
~ "You struggled with understanding the concept that, for instance, 2+3=5 and that 3+2=5. It took you quite awhile to comprehend that even though the numbers were in different places, they still added up to have the same sum." - Brenda Cockerell
Formal Operational Stage
The Formal Operational Stage occurs from age 12 and beyond. During this stage, children develop a far more abstract view of the world. They are able to apply reversibility and conservation to real and imagined situations. Children begin to understand the world on a higher level and begin to ask more complex questions about their surroundings and search for why things happen and their meaning. During this stage, teenagers search for causes of situations and the effects of the situations. Also, teens are able to produce their own theories about what they think about the world.The creation of these theories brings about deeper thought and analyzation of religion, morality, and values. Most children achieve this stage, but failure to do so signifies a lower level of intelligence.
"When did I first start showing deep interest in religion? How did my life change when I did?"
~ "I began to notice you really digging deep into your Christian faith a little before this past summer. This past summer after the PCPC Florida Trip you were very steadfast in your Christian faith. You have always said you were a Christian but up until this summer, I don't think you really and truly in your heart knew if you were or not. You even told all of us that you had finally accepted Jesus into your heart as your savior which means you REALLY are a Christian. You began reading your Bible every night and making detailed notes about what you read. After becoming a Christian, you are much more mature, patient, understanding, and genuinely kind. I really think you became a grown woman after that." -Brenda Cockerell
"How do I argue with you now versus when I was little? How are the developments of my arguments different?"
~ "Your arguments now are definitely more thought out and intelligent. We have always thought that you will be a lawyer based on how elaborate and well said your arguments are. You are very good at making logical points in order to get your way fairly. You never let anything that you feel is unfair go on without a fight. While you can sometimes go about it in a bad way, I respect the fact that you don't let anyone push you around and that you stand up for what you believe in. You have always been that type of person. When you were little, your arguments were primarily made up of screaming and temper-tantrums. Whenever you didn't get what you wanted you would first beg, second scream, third cry, and fourth give up. You had no developed points, no logical reasons for the argument, and your reactions to my responses were completely off.
Erik Erikson Timeline of Lily's Life
Trust vs. Mistrust
From birth to one year, babies learn how to trust their caregivers because they are constantly with them. When the child begins to trust them, they feel secure and safe and gain confidence around the people they trust.If this stage is unsuccessfully completed then the child will experience intense trust issues in the future and will be fearful of trusting future spouses, friends, etc.
"Was I scared of strangers as a baby? Did I allow just anyone to hold me?"
~"You were very scared of strangers as a baby. If you didn't know who the person was, they were not holding you for long because the moment you were out of my hands, you were bawling. The only people who you let hold you were myself, your dad, our housekeeper Abi, and Charlie. No one else." -Brenda Cockerell
Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
Between 1 and 3, children begin to establish their independence. For example, children begin to walk away from their mother, pick their own clothes, decide what toy to play with, etc.If children are encouraged to be independent then they become more secure and confident about their abilities in the world. On the other hand, if they are criticized for their independence, then they are doubtful in their abilities and our overly dependent on other people to do things for them.
"When did I become more independent? How did I show my independence?"
~"You became more independent around 2-years-old which we called 'the terrible twos' because you were always getting mad at us whenever we tried to help you do things or if we tried to tell you what to do. I think your favorite phrase was 'YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!'. Whenever you got that attitude, you were definitely shot down, but your Dad and I really did want to give you freedom and let you make some of your own decisions. We did this by letting you choose your friends, clothes, what to have for dinner, and other things!" - Brenda Cockerell
Initiative vs. Guilt
From ages 3 to 6, begin to plan activities, create games, and make initiate relationships with friends. Children feel like they have gained more initiative and therefore, feel more secure when making decisions and planning activities. If a child's tendency to take initiative is suppressed, then they will feel guilt because they feel like they are being a nuisance and then they will resort to being more of a follower rather than a leader.
"Did I show leadership skills when I was young or was I more quiet and stayed more to myself?"
~"I think you showed leadership skills in the way that if the other kids were doing something that you didn't feel comfortable doing then you wouldn't do it. However, you were very shy and quiet and slightly timid when meeting new people so you were never really the kid who was front and center trying to get all of the attention." -Brenda Cockerell
Industry vs. Inferiority
From age 6 to puberty, children develop pride in their accomplishments. They finish projects to the best of their ability and then feel good about their effort and the project's outcome. Teacher's make a huge impact on children during this stage. Through reinforcement and praise, children feel more confident in their abilities to achieve to goals. If the child's parents or teachers criticize their accomplishments then they develop a sense of inferiority where they doubt their abilities and struggle to reach their full potential.
"What was I passionate about and good at in middle school?"
" In middle school you were very dedicated to school as you are now. You did not like making bad grades because you did not want to feel inferior to your peers. I also think a little bit of that determination and not wanting to feel inferior came from your Dad and I because you know that we were both very hard workers in school and still are to this day."- Brenda Cockerell
Identity vs. Role Confusion
During adolescence, rising adults are more independent and are beginning to plan their future in terms of careers, relationships, marriage, college, housing, children, etc. Children begin to experiment during this time in order to be figure out their identity and who they are. Sometimes their sense of who they are is unclear which results in confusion about, for instance, what they want to be, who they want to marry, where they want to go to college, etc.
"What kind of person do you think I am? Do you think I have found myself?"
~ "I think you are a very dedicated, intelligent, and driven person. I think you will do great things and that you will be very successful due to all the qualities you possess. I think you have started finding who you are. I think it all started when you became a Christian and then everything started falling into place after that. With college in the near future, you have chosen schools on your own that you think are a good fit for you and you also have decided that you think you want to be a lawyer based on the skills you have as a person. I definitely think you are on the fast track to finding out who you are." -Brenda Cockerell
Intimacy vs. Isolation
During young adulthood, humans begin to have more intimate relationships with other people. We begin experimenting with longer lasting relationships with significant others which leads to a sense of commitment, safety, comfort, and care. Avoiding intimacy, care for others, long lasting commitments leads us to a life of isolation, emptiness, loneliness, and even depression.
"What do you think about me dating Sam for over a year and a half? Do you think this long of a relationship is good for me?"
~ "I think your relationship with Sam is a healthy one because you both don't take it too seriously. Yes, you do have a serious relationship where you both feel comfortable with each other and you are each other's best friends, but you do not have a serious enough relationship to the point where y'all fight with each other all the time and disagree on pointless things. I think Sam is a great guy for you because he isn't like other boys who mistreat their girlfriends. This relationship will benefit you in future relationships because you now have experience with how to treat a boyfriend and how to care for someone other than your friends, family, and yourself. A boyfriend is a whole new dynamic compared to those relationships and I think a long lasting boyfriend is a tiny peek at how it is in marriage." -Brenda Cockerell
Generativity vs. Stagnation
During mid-life, we establish careers, settle down with a relationship,start having families, and develop a sense of being apart of a bigger picture. We give back to society by being productive at work,raising our children, and being involved in the community. When we don't achieve these things we feel stagnant and unproductive which leads to a lower quality and outlook on life.
"What kind of person do you see me marrying? Do you think I will be a good mother?"
~ " I see you marrying a very smart, kind, determined, hard working, handsome man who adores you for who you are. The man I think you will marry should accept you as you are and he should want to go to the ends of the Earth to make your potential family's lives as wonderful as your Dad has made our lives. Yes! I think you will be an amazing mother because you know how to be assertive yet so kind at the same time. You will be able to control your children so that they don't go haywire when they grow up, but you will also give them the right amount of freedom so they don't feel overly controlled. You will be very caring, compassionate, and understanding which are all traits that I feel all good mothers possess." - Brenda Cockerell
Ego Integrity vs. Despair
During old age, we slow our productivity and begin to retire. During this time, we look back on our lives and reminisce on our accomplishments, failures, regrets, and successes. If we look back at our accomplishments and are happy then we establish a sense of integrity. However, if we look back at our regrets and failures, we feel guilt about our past or feel that we did not accomplish much. Looking back at the negative experiences can lead to dissatisfaction and depression.
"Do you think I will look back on my life when I am old and will be happy? Have I accomplished a lot so far?"
~" I think you will look back at your life from what it is now and be very happy. Currently in school, you have had all A's the whole year, have wonderful friends who have always been supportive and caring, a kind loving boyfriend who doesn't mistreat you and take you for granted, a great place to call home with nice clothes, furniture, pets, and more, a luxury car to get you from point A to point B, and many more things to be proud and thankful for. You have accomplished lots with grades, NHS, officer positions in many clubs, awards for service, and more. For someone so young, you have achieved so much more than most. I truly am so proud of you for all these things." -Brenda Cockerell
Meyer's Briggs's Personality Assessment: Extraverted Thinking and Introverted Sensing
After taking the Meyer's Brigg's Personality Test, I learned that based on my answers to the questions provided that I have a "ESTJ" personality. A person who is "ESTJ" is "The Overseer". "The Overseer" is a responsible person who is logical and likes to follow the rules while also being very hard-working. I think I fit in this category perfectly because "The Overseer" goes about things in a practical manner to maintain structure. I trust the facts more than the theories because I want to know the right answer. I am very decisive when making decisions--I do not change my mind often. I am also a very loyal and honest person. I stay true to people who stay true to me and I do them the service of telling them the truth so they have someone's honest opinion. ESTJ's like being the leader and over seeing projects being done correctly. I strongly believe that things will not be done right unless they are done by myself. I also have a clear set of standards and beliefs and I do not sway from them. ESTJ's have a prominent sense of integrity and morals. The values are the reasons behind why ESTJ's prefer to follow the rules and not get in trouble. ESTJ's have little to no patience for people lacking these traits. I live in the present and use my 5 senses to analyze my situation. While getting the job done in a group, an ESTJ can be critical and demanding because of their strong beliefs. Being an ESTJ, I take my commitments very seriously. I hate being late to appointments or gatherings because I feel that it is rude. While having a predominantly serious personality, I also like to have fun. Like most ESTJ's, I enjoy hanging out in big groups of friends while being the life of the party. It is important for me to not become too rigid when listening to other's input. I definitely hold the characteristic to unknowingly apply logic and reasoning to situations where emotional support is needed and hurt someone's feelings by accident. When very stressed, I tend to feel very unwanted and misunderstood and that my efforts are taken for granted. When feeling this way, I stray from my normal abilities of being able to voice my opinion and become very shut down.
Sigmund Freud states that we are all born with our Id. Our Id allows us to meet all of our basic needs and it is based on on our pleasure principle. Basically our Id wants us to feel good at all times no matter the situation and avoid pain. Around 3 years old our Ego develops. Ego is based on reality and it understands that other people have needs and desires and that being selfish and impulsive can hurt us later in life. The Ego meets the needs of the Id while understanding the reality of the situation. The Superego develops around age 5. The Superego is our morality and values that comes about from the ethics that our caregivers taught us. The Superego is often correlated with our conscience because it dictates our right and wrong. The unconscious mind is what causes a large part of personality. Primal urges and the drive for sex is what also pleases us.
"Lily possesses traits like standing firm in her beliefs, being compassionate for others, and getting necessary jobs done immediately that all directly correlate with the Psychoanalytic Theory's principles of Superego, Ego, and Id. She meets her Id needs by prioritizing the things she finds most important and doing them first in order to feel pleasure. Later in life, when she is in a married relationship, her Id needs will revolve around sex. Next, she shows a developed Ego by realizing that other people have needs that need to be met by showcasing a sense of compassion for others. Lastly, she shows that she possesses a Superego by having a strong connection to her moral beliefs and values. " -Sigmund Freud
Neo-Freudian Analytic Theory:
Carl Jung states that primal urges mold our personalities, however, sex drives do not. Humans are born knowing their roles and have a sense of Animus vs. Anima (masculine vs. feminine), The Shadow vs. The Persona (the dark side vs. the self or evil vs. good), and Introvert vs. Extrovert that come from archetypes, or primordial images, from their ancestors. A human's personality stems from a cultural background that has been passed down throughout their family. Although human's are born with these ideas, a human's environment can change his or her role. Also, not only to do people posses their own unique unconscious thoughts, but they also share unconscious thoughts with all other people.
"Lily seems to know her role in Animus vs. Anima. She is strongly intact with her sense of Anima, or her feminine side. She shows this by being a good listener and giving the proper advice to make someone feel better. Her Shadow vs. Persona role shows because she is connected to the Persona side when she stays true to her moral beliefs and does the right thing. In the archetype of Introvert vs. Extrovert, Lily is more of an Extrovert because she enjoys being in big groups of people and socializing and having a good time." -Carl Jung
This theory claims that we have no free will in regards to our personality and that we are not born with a personality--we develop it from being in our environment.
"Lily has learned through her environment to want to obey the rules. Lily grew up in a household that enacts strict punishment when the rules are broken. Also, she has learned to be slightly critical and serious from her father who is very intense and critical all the time. Nothing pleases him so Lily learned to be critical through him. Although critical, Lily also likes to have and be light-hearted,which she learned from her mother. Lily's mom is very laid back and Type B. Her mom enjoys having a good time and having a good laugh. Lily learned to be more fun and outgoing through watching her mother. She learned to be very hard-working and diligent through both of her parents who are very successful. They taught her that success does not come from sitting back and hoping to get lucky. Her upbringing is what gave her the personality she has today." -B.F. Skinner
Humanist theory claims that humans do have free will and we decided who we think we are and who we want to become. As stated by Carl Rogers, humans are moving towards congruence--where the ideal self, real self, and self-concept all match up. Martin Seligman proclaimed that mindset matters. Learned helplessness, or no longer avoiding the aversive stimulus and just accepting it, shapes a personality because a part of some people's personality would be the concept of learned helplessness. Abraham Maslow developed Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. The Hierarchy of Needs has 5 levels. 1st, meeting your physiological needs like hunger and thirst. 2nd, achieving your safety and security needs like long-term survival and stability. 3rd, attaining your belongingness and love needs like affiliation and acceptance within a group. 4th, meeting your esteem needs like achievement and gaining of recognition. 5th, reaching your self-actualization needs like realizing your full potential.
"Lily is beginning to know who she is. She knows that she is very loyal, honest, decisive, and fun-loving. She also is aware of some of her more negative attributes like her slightly critical attitude, overly-logical mindset, and more serious disposition. Lily possesses free will and can easily work on and ultimately change some of her qualities if she set her mind to it." -Carl Rogers
"Lily does not have a personality that tends to fall to learned helplessness. She is very decisive and does not change her mind easily so she would not give up and accept aversive stimuli. Her mindset is that 'nothing will get done right unless I do it myself'. This mindset means that she is very determined to get things done correctly and it will not change. She is slightly critical so her mindset is that nothing ever good enough." -Martin Seligman
"Lily is moving her way up the Hierarchy of Needs. While being only 17, she has met her physiological needs by having sufficient food, water, and sleep, she has met her safety needs by living in a safe place with a nice house in a good neighborhood, she has met her needs to feel love and belonging by having a kind and caring family that takes care of her and she also has a large group of best friends that are supportive and loyal and accept her for who she is, and lastly she has a nice boyfriend who loves and cares about her. Lily has also achieved her self-esteem needs by gaining recognition in her environment through academics and being confident in who she is. Because she is only 17, Lily has not quite reached self-actualization. Self-actualization is extremely hard to fully meet but Lily is definitely on her way because she is very determined to do her best and be successful." -Abraham Maslow
Social-Cognitive Theory states that we become who we are through interaction with others and observing and modeling them. Our personalities are created through imitating others. Albert Bandera believes reciprocal action, or the active process of learning. Personalities are developed through reciprocal action because, for instance, young children actively copy their older sibling's personality. Also, many children who watch TV shows imitate the character's attitudes. Self- efficacy, or being self confident through praise, is also prevalent in the Social-Cognitive Theory. Whenever a child exhibits good behavior from having a good attitude which spurs from a positive personality, that shows self-efficacy.Julian Rotter believes social learning, or interaction with others determines whether we become who we can be. Rotter also believes in Locus of Control where one asks 'do I believe that I control my destiny or others?'.
"Lily exhibits reciprocal action because she actively learns how to be a better leader, stick to her values, and how to better herself when communicating with others in order to not be so harsh. Lily displays self-efficacy by feeling self confident when accomplishing things and being successful and then receiving her praise from her parents." -Albert Bandura
"Lily displays Social Learning by being a determined and hardworking person because of her interaction with her successful parents. The interaction with her father caused her to become critical and decisive. The interaction with her mother caused her to become fun and outgoing. Lily showcases Locus of Control by staying true to people who stay true to her. People who have shown loyalty to Lily have taught her how to be loyal because she felt the need to reciprocate. They have destined her to be a loyal person." -Julian Rotter
Gordon Allport sifted through the dictionary to find all the words that could be used to describe a person and then devised 3 trait categories known as, Cardinal Trait, Central Trait, and Secondary Trait. The Cardinal Trait is the trait that dominates and shapes a person's behavior. Most people do not discover their Cardinal Trait because most people do not have one over arching personality. An example of a Cardinal Trait would be a very giving personality. The Central Trait is a general characteristic found in all people in varying degrees. Central Traits build a person's behavior, but are not as dominate as a Cardinal Trait. An example of a Central Trait would be honesty. The Secondary Trait is the trait that is typically underlying. It is only seen in certain circumstances and must be included to fully envelop a person's personality. Secondary Traits are the traits that can make a person vulnerable and come out when the person is with people they are comfortable with. An example of a Secondary Trait would be anxiety.
"Due to Cardinal Traits being very rare occurrences, I do not think Lily possesses one. However, Lily's Central Traits are honesty, decisiveness, loyalty, dedication, intelligence and responsibility. All of these traits are very prevalent in her day to day personality. Everyone in her environment knows Lily to be those things. What not everyone knows, is Lily's Secondary Traits. Lily can be very anxiety-ridden when in stressful situations and she is very sensitive. She can feel very left out at times and unwanted by her peers. Most people do not see this side of her because this side makes her vulnerable." -Gordon Allport
The Big Five Personality Assessment:
I scored 1st percentile in the Openness to Experience/Intellect category. This score indicates that I am very conventional, down to earth, uncreative, and have narrow interests. I prefer traditional and familiar experiences.
I scored 86th percentile in the Conscientiousness category. This score means I am very reliable with my commitments, well-organized, self-disciplined in order to get things done promptly, and careful. People can trust that I will be organized when performing a task.
I scored 59th percentile in the Extraversion category. I am sociable yet introverted, friendly but reserved, fun-loving yet inhibited, talkative but at times very quiet and shy. Depending on the situation, I am either very outgoing and funny or quiet and reserved. When I am with people I am comfortable with, like my friends, I am loud, energetic, funny, and enthusiastic. When I am with people I don't know very well, like new acquaintances, I am shy, awkward, and stand off-ish.
I scored 57th percentile in the Agreeableness category. Simultaneously I am both, good-natured, sympathetic, forgiving, courteous, critical, rude, harsh, and callous. I disagree with the fact that I am callous and harsh. I feel that I am primarily kind, compassionate, and understanding although I do have many tendencies to be critical.
I score 71st percentile in the Neuroticism category. I possess tendencies to be nervous, high-strung, insecure, and an avid worrier. As a young kid, I was extremely nervous and always worrying. I always thought something bad was going to happen and I was extremely superstitious to try and create a way for something bad not to happen. I become easily anxiety-ridden for strange reasons and have always been that way my whole life.
69% of the people who took my quiz agreed that I am intelligent. I think I am very intelligent. I enjoy learning new things and expanding my knowledge base. I try my hardest in school in order to make good grades and retain more knowledge. 30% of the people who took my quiz agree that I am dependable, friendly, happy, independent, mature, and trustworthy. I am always available for my friends whenever they need me and I am willing to hear them out no matter what and not judge. They know that I am trustworthy and will not tell their secrets. I always I am trying to have a good time and be in a good mood. I agree that I am friendly and happy. I have always been a person who likes to do things by myself and get things done correctly. I take things seriously and don't goof off in inappropriate times. I have learned over the years that things will not be done correctly if I don't do it so I have developed a strong sense of independence and maturity. 23% of the people who took my quiz agreed that I am caring, energetic, extroverted, loving, and witty. I am definitely very energetic and but only in settings with people I am comfortable with. I acknowledge that I am caring and loving because I enjoy having a positive relationship with the people I love. 15% of the people who took my quiz agreed that I am bold, clever, confident, kind, logical, self-assertive, and silly. I disagree that one of my main qualities to describe me is being bold. I think I definitely can be bold depending on the situation, but I would not say that I am always willing to take risk. I feel like I am confident, but there are definitely times where I have no confidence and I have a really low self esteem. I agree that I am kind and silly. I like being nice to people because that is how I want them to treat me. I agree that I am silly because I love to laugh and make others laugh.