3 Proven Steps to Build Your Confidence in a Conflict
Choose 2 Talk Mediation Agency
Shimekia Nichols, Certified Mediator
"Preparation is the key to Success"
Conflict in our homes, jobs and relationships can leave us feeling drained, frustrated, restless or even depressed. Finding resolution to a dispute or uncomfortable conversation doesn't have to isolate you, cost a lot of money or take much of your time. There are non-adversarial approaches you can use that will improve your chances of a successful outcome that leaves you with a peace of mind and sense of well-being.
Here are 3 research-based tricks Choose2Talk Mediation Agency suggests you use the next time you are engaging in a conversation or interaction with someone you are not seeing eye to eye with.
Many times we are overly invest in the outcome of our conversations especially if we have bumped heads with a person before. Often we are simply distracted or overwhelmed subconsciously even before we are approached with a conflict or criticism. When someone begins talking try to avoid rebuttals or defensive responses to each point you find yourself disagreeing with; instead, focus on maintaining eye contact and nod affirmatively when something is said that you are in agreement with.
Shirts Speak Louder Than Words
The colors red, green and blue have been proven to have a tremendous impact on persuasiveness and the acceptance of new idea, attitudes and information. While red is more stimulating and exciting, Researchers credit our subconscious association of the color red with stopping. Green is perceived to be a representation of growth and renewal. Blue hues psychologically have a calming effect that can make a disputant more open to amicable solutions.
Pop a Peppermint
Stay cool during your next convo by popping a peppermint. In the time it takes to consume the red and white candy you will have given your disputant time to speak without interruption and the sugary aftertaste may even sweeten your words when it is your turn to respond. Peppermint oil is a great and healthy alternative to candy. Just remember to use it in moderation as it packs a powerful punch in each drop.
These smart tips were provided by contributions from: Corrie Pikul, contributor on Oprah.com "Finding Peace in Less Than 5 Minutes", Researchers at Wheeling Jesuit University in West Virginia and Dr. Mehmet Oz, "3 Colors That Improve Your Well-being".
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Shimekia Nichols is a SCAO Certified Mediator and Owner of Choose 2 Talk Mediation Agency. She loves to write about all things related to mediation and communication. She posts about best practices, legislation and advocacy in the field of mediation and seeks to expand the understanding and growth an emerging industry that provides an alternative resolution to a variety of disputes.
Shimekia’s practice is a private, ethical and community-focused organization. The aim provides opportunities for quality restorative justice and litigation support services that focus on Wayne County, Michigan residents many of whom are expecting to or engaging in court proceedings that are eligible for Mediation.