Big Mike and Alicia


1. Sensorimotor Period (Birth-2 Years-Can you tell me the story surrounding my first walking experiences? Was I skilled from the start or a late bloomer?
A-You were in the normal range, crawling around 6 months and walking around 11, nothing too out of the ordinary, unlike your brother. We used the toy inner tube walking thing to teach you how to get around, which could have helped or hindered you.
-Did things not exist for me when they were out of sight? (Object permanence) Peek-a-boo?
A-We could take things away to put them away and you would kind of amicably just forget or relax about it when it was out of sight.
-How did I explore my world?
A-You were always very curious, and with your little inner tube walker you could cruise around. I remember one time, I (dad) spent hours child-proofing the house and the first thing you did when we set you down was go over and unlock the liquor cabinet, and then proceed to the kitchen to unlock the chemical cabinet. You didn't take anything, just open them, it was hilarious.

-Did I group (assimilate) animals or anything? (Like Mrs. Berglund's daughter with the "cows")
A-You were very organized, always grouping things. Never mistaking things for other things as far as we can remember.
2. Preoperational Period (2-7 years)-I don't think so, but did I have an imaginary friend? Explain
A-You never had an imaginary friends or anything, because your creative or imaginative outlets were always satisfied by books and video games and things.
-Talk about when I first started fantasy play versus simple play with toys?
A-You would always love becoming a magician or making tent forts or acting like different situations. You're still great at accents, and you would always love to become different roles, building things and everything. You were very creative. You were always more cerebral than your brother.
-Math concepts, object discernment, conservation problems? (Add vs subtract, discerning like the cow vs dog, conservation explain juice thing)
A-Story about bookstore. You were always great at math everything, we had learning programs (involved games) that we used to teach you.
-How was my sharing?
A-Always very sweet, you were good at sharing. Your brother never shared with you well, but you were good.
3. Concrete Operational Period (7-12 years)-Did I understand others or only see my own perspective?
A-You were always, and still are, an excellent communicator as well as a mediator. So you could always see both sides of the table, always being friends or at least acquaintances with everyone. You always have seemed like you have a desire to make people happy, never hurting feelings or anything.
-Did I read much and if so what kind of books, chapter or simple?
A-All kinds of books, chapter books from 7 on. You read at a second grade level coming in to kindergarten, especially mysteries and I-Spy games and things.
-Did I learn from my mistakes/experiences and adapt to them in a way you could see?
A-Yes, which makes sense with your mediator/advice giving nature, because you always were learning about everyone and everything, trying to make friends with everyone.
4. Formal Operational Period (12 years and up)-When did I start to win arguments? Using logical reasoning/abstract concepts? Did I ask about abstract concepts?
A-That was always your type. You always, from kindergarten on, were negotiating and mediating, trying to get things across. You always won arguments or persuasions.
-Santa Claus belief? (Things like this)
A-Always believed in Santa, Tooth Fairy, etc. We always told you the St. Nicholas story, telling them there were Santa's helpers.
Stage 1-Trust vs Mistrust (0-1 years)-Did I trust both of you? (Crying, separation, etc)
A-You hardly ever cried at separation, you liked holding hands a lot but were never upset.
-Any particularly trusting/close relationships of note?
A-Never too trusting of anyone, you always had a healthy fear.
Stage 2-Autonomy vs Shame/Doubt (1-3 years)-Terrible 2s? Or 3s? Any particular my way or the highway behavior?
A-You were never a terrible two, or three, and never really said your way or bust. You were always very accepting and amicable.
-Autonomy/independence signs?
A-You were always an independent person. You separated very early and could always be by yourself and fine.
Stage 3-Initiative vs Guilt (3-6 years)-When was my first noticed leadership? Did I prefer to be a leader or a follower?
A-You were always a leader, in class, in your friend groups, on the field. All your classmates followed you, but you never wanted to be in the big spotlight. Sometimes you'd try a little too hard to get people to like you.
-Did it seem like I was ambitious/proud or power hungry and guilty?
A-You were confident, always doing projects and were very productivity oriented.
Stage 4-Industry vs Inferiority (6 years-puberty) -When did I start doing things that I was proud about?
A-You always were, never too shy or anything.
-When did I start finding certain types of people that I wanted to spend time with?
A-You were always friends with every kind of group, kind of a rover, which goes well with your mediator type. You were never cliquey or anything, you wanted to include everyone.
-Did I ever concern about differences between myself and others? When, and what?
A-There was a point where you were stuck in between two groups of people, noticing the fact that both wanted to be friends with you but not each other, which never made sense to you.
Stage 5-Identity vs Role Confusion (Adolescence)-When did I start to become independent?
A-You always were.
-When did I begin to find things that define "me" and what were they?
A-Early on, you always wanted to excel at school and everything, then found your physicality, which you took advantage of. You've also always had a righteous indignation for the good of people. You always tried to diffuse bullies and be around people.
Stage 6-Intimacy vs Isolation (Young Adulthood)-Do you think my group of friends has/will change?
A-You've already had multiple big group of close friend shifts, but your friends are ever changing and growing. You've always been friends with everyone.
-What kind of person do you see me marrying?
A-Someone bright and outgoing.
-What kind of parent do you see me as?
A-I see you as a wonderful father, because you love kids, and you're wonderful and giving and fun. You'd like to foster imagination and variety, caring. Not very caring about clean rooms or house, but about well being of children and family. You feel strongly about injustice, so I think you'd foster that innate morality in them as well.
Stage 7-Generativity vs Self Absorption/Stagnation (Middle Adult)-How successful do you think I will be and why?
A-Very successful because you have a great capacity for a variety of things, between your bright mind and personable nature, the sky is the limit. However, you're not hardworking enough.
-What kind of job do you think I'll have and why?
A-Some kind of job managing people and dealing with people, possibly as a kind of job as a teacher/professor/counselor/therapist of some sort. Possibly part of the church.

Stage 8-Integrity vs Despair (Senior Adulthood)-How did the death of a relative affect me?
You were never great with death or big changes like that.
-When I'm 90 and looking at my life, what do you think I'll say?
A-I think you'll like what you see, and be happy about most things. Everyone has some form of regret, as I'm sure you will, but I think you'll be happy.

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