My Identity Theory

By: Brandi Moore

The Looking Glass Self : Charles Horton Cooley (1864-1929)

In Cooley's "The Looking Glass Self" theory, people's self-concepts are based off of how they think others see them. For example, if one imagines that other people think they are overweight, they will also see themselves as overweight. This is seen everywhere in the twentieth century, especially in schools. Schools, television shows about schools, and movies about schools all show bullying. Bullying causes victims with "The Looking Glass Self" identity to feel exactly as the bully says they are. "Fat", "Nerd", "Whore", all of these are things that victims can feel because of bullies.

My self image or Looking Glass Self has definitely changed. In the beginning, leaving middle school was hard, I was "fat" and a "total loser". Finishing this year and my previous high school year has taken a toll on how I see myself. It has given me the confidence to be different, to not follow along with the crowd and also to know that by doing this, I am still beautiful. I am now my own person and know that my friends do not see anything bad about me.

"I won't apologize for being different. I can be who I am." - Kellin Quinn

This information helps me to understand why I saw myself the way I did as well as why that has changed. This information will help me to understand why others feel the way they do and how to change that. Many college courses will require this understanding but most importantly the social importance of this information.

Works Cited

“The Looking Glass Self: How Our Self-Image Is Shaped by Society.” POPULAR SOCIAL SCIENCE. N.p., 2013. Web. 17 May 2015. <>