Breaking Fear

Mike Morgan - a pizza guy

“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist…fear is a choice. “

-Will Smith (After Earth-2013)

Accepting fear for what it is and what it isn’t is an important first step in your new life. Fear is an emotion. It is not a thing, a person or a place. It is created and destroyed within our minds. Fear is a reminder to us of what we need to work on. It is a reminder of our shortcomings. If we are afraid of something, it is your mind telling you, specifically, what you need to attack. For instance, if you have to give a speech and you are afraid….what are you really afraid of? Are you going to forget everything? Is everyone going to laugh at you? Probably not. So what is at the source of the fear? The root cause of this and many fears is a lack of belief in your ability to handle the situation. Maybe you didn’t practice enough, maybe you are worried about conclusions you have that are shaky, maybe you aren’t bringing enough solid information to the table. Whatever the components are, they usually have their origins in a lack of preparation. Fear can never be destroyed, but it can be placed in a box where it no longer threatens you. Remember that this fear is standing between you and the life you are meant to live. Remember that nobody is coming to take care of this fear for you. You are the only one that can deal with this fear. When fear comes, don’t run from it. Run towards it. Use that feeling of fear to pump your legs harder as you run that fear down. As you run fear down, know that you may be bruised and bloodied in this battle, but this is a fight you are destined to win. Get angry and purposeful. Grab it around the throat and pull it close. Look it in the eyes and study it. Find out what is at its core. Develop a plan of learning and practice to attack the fear at its weakest point. Learn to become a machine in your preparation for things that you fear. Plan thoughtfully and thoroughly. Practice well beyond what you think is appropriate. This practice bleeds off anxiety and doubt. There is always a turning point where your preparation begins to diminish the harsh glare that is cast by fear. You will begin to feel the power of control over the fear. This is the point at which you realize that the fear belongs to you. You own this fear. It was created and can be controlled within your own mind. Make fear…fear you!

image from "The Grey" 2011 - Open Road Films