What you need to know about
Type 4: The More Serious Child

Primary Connection to the World: Intellectual
Primary Movement: Straightforward and exact
Primary Need: to be respected by their parents
and family members and respect them in return

Often described as...

Articulate, Bold, Clear, Concise, Deeply Loyal, Dignified, Efficient, Exact, Focused, Honorable, Literal, Logical, Mature, Precise, Poised, Polite, Proper, Reflective, Reserved, Responsible, Serious, Still, Structured, Thorough, Well Mannered, Well Behaved

Please don't use these negative labels...

Bossy, Brash, Condescending, Critical, Harsh, Judgement, Know-it-all, Loner, Opinionated, Rebellious

Type 4 Children Need...

1. Support in being their own authority

Type 4 children need to be their own authority from the earliest age possibe. Instead of power struggles and frustration, you will have mutual cooperation and life long bonds.

2. Respect

Need respect for their sense of authority, their logical nature and their bold stance in their opinions. They will respond dramatically from this experience.

3. Privacy

Respect their need for space and time that is just theirs. This includes reprimanding them privately, and never embarrassing them public. Treat their belongings as private possessions, especially those they care most about.

4. Encouragement to live true to who they are

Refer to the phrases in each of the developmental stages further down.

5. Time for reflection

Don't demand instant answers to the questions you ask. They need time to think deeply and thoroughly before sharing their opinions about something new. Quiet time to connect with self should be allowed daily.

6. Undivided attention when communicating

Look them in the eye, listen without distractions or interruptions and don't make them repeat themselves. It you are too distracted at the moment, set aside a time in the near future when you can give undivided attention. This is especially honouring to a type 4.

7. Help to see the bigger picture by giving them advanced notice

Keep your type 4 in the loop when it comes to daily plans, weekly plans and family vacations. When they are mentally organised they can move forward with ease. Let them know as soon as you can of any changes, so they have time to reorganise and process. Give them a 15 minute warning that they need to wrap up what they are doing before hand.

8. Social help

Enable them to find one best friend who has similar interests and abilities. Encourage this relationship, even if the friend moves. Do not push them to make lots of friends or be engaged in large social activities with a lot of people.

9. Don't sweat the small stuff

You'll experience plenty of opportunity to feel challenged by your Type 4 child's perfecting eye and seemingly endless criticisms. Decide today to let go of your frustration and focus on showing respect to your child in order to create mutual respect between you.

10. Avoid these phases and judgments:

- you are such a loner

- stop being so picky

- what a know-it-all

- Smile more!

- Lighten up

- You're uptight

- Quit being so critical

Tuttle, C (2012) The Child Whisperer Live your Truth: USA pp. 297 - 300

Tell me more...

Natural Gift: Respect and efficiency

Personality Traits: More serious than the other types

Thought and Feeling Processes: Black and white, all or nothing

Communication: Logical and concise

Family Relationships: Ever loyal, often misunderstood

Friends & Social Settings: Need their alone time

Timeliness: Love consistency and routine

Jobs & Chores: Thorough and reliable

Money Management: Thoughtful about spending

Recreational Activities: One track at a time

Learning Style: Duplication with improvements

Classroom Behaviour: Adapt to structure if respected

Study Habits: Repetition is useful

Challenges: Power struggles and respect

Payoff: Loyalty

Physical Development

Learning to Walk: Following the grown-ups

Learning to Talk: Striving to speak perfectly

Toilet Training: Matter-of-fact

Sleeping: Best served by a sleep schedule

Starting School: Need time to observe

Baby Sitting: Need advanced notice

Dating: All or nothing

High School Experience: Fewer, closer friends

Driving: Efficient drivers (and backseat drivers)

Emotional Dvelopment

  • Baby 0 to 18 Months -Need to be validated for their inwardly still, structured nature and to be supported in starting to explore and sense the world around them.
  • Toddler 18 Months to 3 Years - Need support in sensing, exploring and doing in the world. Learning to do things by themselves!
  • Pre-school 3 to 6 Years - Coming into their own identity and power and feeling a sense of their own authority.
  • School Age 6 to 12 Years - Need to fit in, working with structure, knowing and learning.
  • High School 12 to 18 Years - Separating and creating independance from the family