3 Things You Can Do Today to Improve Your Self-Confidence

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

1. Take small steps outside of your comfort zone.

An important thing about stepping outside of your comfort zone is that you don’t have to go all in at once in many cases.

One tip – that have been helpful for me – if you want to try something like talking to someone new, trying yoga or tennis or doing something that doesn’t feel like the same old thing you always do is to tell yourself this:

Just for today I will try [insert something you want to try]!

You just have to do it today. Not ever again after today. You are not signing up for some huge commitment.

Tomorrow you may continue on that new path. Or you may not.

By not making this into a huge thing you have do but instead just a small step that you can take and get done as slowly as you like it becomes so much easier to do what is most important at first: to put yourself in motion.

2. Add smart habits to your life to reduce the stress and inner pressure.

If you let stress and inner pressure ramp up you become weaker, you tend to overreact more often and negative viewpoints tend to pop up more frequently in your head.

And so your confidence in yourself and your ability to do what you want to do decreases.

By adding a few smart habits that can release that inner pressure, stress and tensions on a daily and weekly basis it once again becomes easier to keep the physical and mental energy and inner strength up.

Try adding one of these three unstressing habits at a time and see how they work for you:

  • Just breathe. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again.
  • Set clear boundaries for your day and week. By stopping my work at 7 o clock in the evenings at the latest and shutting off my computer then, by taking roughly 15 minutes of relaxing and recharging break time for each 45 minute period that I work and by staying away from work during the weekend and the internet for at least one of those weekend days I become more relaxed and productive.

3. See it in your mind before you do it.

Before we are about to do something like having a meeting, a date, a regular day at work or a presentation it is quite natural to see it in our minds.

However, it is common to routinely imagine and see in your mind how things could go wrong in this upcoming situation. And that can suck the self-confidence right out of you.

So here are two things you can do instead:

Use the positive visualization.

One often recommended thing to do instead of visualizing negatively is to close your eyes and see in your mind how well things will go.

How things go great and as you planned during the presentation or meeting, how confident and enthusiastic you are during it all and then to see in your mind how the meeting is finished and done in the way you desire.

Use the no big deal vizualisation.

Another way of visualizing that I use pretty often is what could be called the “it’s no big deal” visualization. When I do this I basically see in my mind how this meeting or upcoming situation will not be a huge thing that could go wrong.

Instead I see in my mind myself acting in the situation as if it is a normal thing like so many daily or weekly things in life. I see myself as relaxed and calm, the situation may even feel a little anti-climactic and it really is not different than other meetings or situations that I have had in the past.

This may not sound as inspiring as the first visualization but I find that it is oftentimes more useful because it can be easier to believe in than a overly positive image of how things will go. And because it reduces nervousness, relaxes me and it allows me to stay present and be as myself in the best way.

And that is often all that is needed. Because most of the time increasing your confidence for some situation is not about adding something or boosting yourself up in some way.

It is about reducing stress and nervousness to the point where you can act and think in the same relaxed, centered and positive way that you do with close friends and family.

Here is a great video i found on youtube:

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