The Sharpness of Water

Mike Morgan - a pizza guy

“If you can control a man's thinking you do not have to worry about his action. When you determine what a man shall think you do not have to concern yourself about what he will do. If you make a man feel that he is inferior, you do not have to compel him to accept an inferior status, for he will seek it himself. If you make a man think that he is justly an outcast, you do not have to order him to the back door. He will go without being told; and if there is no back door, his very nature will demand one.”

-Carter G Woodson

Who is controlling your thoughts? Who around do you allow to be in your inner circle? Are these relationships helping to build you up? The people you allow to be in your ear everyday have an unconscious effect on your mind. Their ways will slowly become your ways. You will begin to pick up their outlook on life. If you are spending your time with pessimistic and negative people, you will become pessimistic and negative. You cannot spend extended time in the company of losers and not yourself eventually suffer the same fate. Birds of a feather flock together. Your network will have the same effect on your life as water does on rock. In the span of several days or several weeks, nothing special happens. There is almost no noticeable difference. However, after years of the water passing by, the signs of erosion begin to surface. Your friends have the ability to be positive and fortifying or negative and destructive. They will erode parts of you. What will they sweep away in the current of their actions? Will they smooth the rough edges of your life that are keeping you from being your best? Will they sweep away negativity that has clung to you, weighing you down? Or will they channel a path that diverts your energy from your dreams? Will the flow of their actions cut deep inside of you and remove your optimism? Will they use the unassuming blade of water to gouge out your motivation? Will they replace your drive with statements like: You can't do that, you are doing better than most people, that is too hard, people like you just aren't capable of that. Don't underestimate the longterm damage that these people can inflict upon your life. These relationships are not healthy and do not serve you. Healthy relationships are reciprocal. It is not always an equal give and take, but it is always a give and take. Things should be close to even when looked at over the long term. You have a decision about who you allow to be in your inner circle. You make a choice to lend your ear and time to others. Seek those that build you up. Seek those that inspire you. Nurture those relationships that fortify your resolve to power through the struggle. Also, find those relationships that are draining you. Find the relationships that make you feel helpless. Identify those people that are takers and are eroding your dreams. When you have them identified, simply cast them overboard. Stop feeding those toxic relationships. You won’t miss them. You will find new energy and time to invest in those relationships that are helping to carve a path flowing to the life you are meant to live.