"A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams, or your dignity." -Mandy Hale
Yesterday we discussed dating and dating expectations. We also had the opportunity to ask the opposite gender questions we had about them. Today we will be discussing healthy relationships
This wheel shows what a loving, healthy relationship looks like. Everything is centered around equality.
Myth vs. Fact
Myth: Being vulnerable always leads to getting hurt
FACT: Being vulnerable sometimes leads to hurt but sometimes leads to emotional rewards. It is the only route to intimacy with another person.
Myth: We will never argue with or criticize each other.
FACT: Couples argue from time to time and are critical of each other’s behavior
Myth: My partner will make me happy
FACT: People who are happy before entering a relationship are most likely to be happy in a relationship
Myth: Given time. I can change what I don’t like about my partner.
FACT: In healthy relationships, people accept the positive and negative traits of their partners. Trying to change a partner is usually unsuccessful and detrimental.
Myth: My partner will meet all of my needs and will instinctively anticipate my every desires and wishes.
FACT: A partner will meet some of your needs, but you must meet some needs by yourself or through other friendships. People are not mind reader. If you don’t communicate your needs, desires, and wishes clearly, your partner won’t be able to fulfill them.
What do you think?
I want to see what you all think about some topics. Give a thumbs up if you agree, a middle thumbs for maybe, and a thumbs down if you disagree.
- Do you want to marry a virgin?
- Do you think marriage should last forever?
- Do you think it’s okay to have more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at a time?
- Do you think it’s okay for a girl to ask out a guy?
- Do you think kissing should not be permitted in school?
- Do you think men think about sex all the time?
- Do you think women think about sex just as much as men do?
- Do you think there is a difference between “making love” and “having sex” ?
- Is it possible to be in love with two people at once?
- I would not forgive my spouse for adultery?
Sometimes it's hard to tell...
In your group, read the article together. Then as a group decide what the main points to share with the rest of the class are.
I need a volunteer!
I will read a piece from the advice column. You will answer the writer back with good advice on what they should do. You may phone a friend or poll the audience if for their opinions if you get stuck or wish to diversify your responce.
Dear Helpful, I'm 16 years old and madly in love with a guy in my class. I think of him constantly and want to spend all my time with him. We've gone out a couple of times and he's jokingly talked about spending the night together. I'm confused. How do I know if this is really love or if it's something else? And how should I know if I should spend the night with him if the chance comes up? He's so gorgeous, I don't want to lose him.
Dear Helpful, I think I'm ready for a mature relationship. I've had a lot of friends who are girls but I've never really had that special thing between two people. I'm not sure how to go about this. ?There's this one girl I'm sorta interested in, but how do I know if she's the right one or if I'm the right one for her? HELP!
Dear Helpful, I'm 15 years old and still a virgin. Is there something wrong with me? So many of my friends are doing it and it doesn't seem to matter to them. I was brought up to think sex should be something special between two people who love each other. Now I'm beginning to wonder; my boyfriend has been real good about it, but maybe I'm the one who is wrong. I'm so confused!