What you need to know about
Type 2: The Sensitive Child
Primary Connection to the World: Emotional
Primary Movement: Subtle and Flowing
Primary Need: To have feelings honored and everyone
in the family feel loved and connected
Often described as...
Agreeable, Calm, Careful, Cautious, Comforting, Concerned, Cuddly, Detailed, Easy going, Feels for others, Gentle, Graceful, Kind, Loving, Low-key, Pleasant, Pleasing, Quiet, Relaxed, Reserved, Sensitive, Soothing, Subdued, Sweet, Tender-hearted, Thoughtful
Please don't use these negative labels...
Cry-baby, Overly sensitive, Pouty, Shy, Slow, Timid, Whiny
Type 2 Children Need...
Remenber the importance of all things comfortable in their world! Soft clothes, blankets and bedding are obvious but think also about their bedroom, study areas, towels, food, and mood or peace at home
Take a few extra minutes and words to reassure the type 2 child. Help them limit their tendancy to worry and fret by supporting them with encouragement. Even if you correct them gently, make sure to tell them that they are stil okay with you. It may be obvious to you, but it doesn't fell that way to them.
3. Validation for their feelings
With a strong emotional connection to the world, type 2s thrive when they are validated for their feelings and supported in feeling them. Your permission and validation for their feelings will support them in staying very emotionally balanced and stable.
4. Encouragement to live true to who they are
Refer to the phrase in each of the developmental stages further down
5. Answers to their questions
Whether you have the answers or can refer your child to other resources for answers, support their questioning nature. Recognize it as part of their process of gathering details to make a mental plan on how to move forward in all aspects of their life.
6. Time to be quiet and connect with family
Take time to sit and connect physically with a type 2. They appreciate a physical connection, like a hug, and arm around them or a hand on their back.
They are aware of the amount of attention other children receive and want to be treated fairly in receiving the same amount. They will not speak up for it, but will give you subtle clues they need more attention. Rather than wait for the clues, just make sure they get the same amount of attention as their siblings/friends/peers.
8. To be heard
Encourage your type 2 to speak up and share themselves with you and others - including their feelings, interests, hopes, dreams and plans.
9. Don't sweat the small stuff
You'll experience plenty of opportunities to get frustrated over the endless questions, the apparent dawdling and the constant piles of clutter in their room. Decide today to let go of some of that frustration and focus on the calm energy that your child creates when they are honored and validated for who they are.
10. Avoid these phrases and judgements
- hurry up
- you're too slow
- you're too quiet
- stop worrying so much
- don't be shy
- you're too picky
- you're a little awkward
- when will you finally finish
Tuttle, C. (2012) The Child Whisperer Live Your Truth:USA pp.157-159
Tell me more...
Natural Gift: Peace and plans
Personality Traits: Steady and connected
Thought & Feeling Process: Planners and worriers
Communication: Soft-spoken and emotionally aware
Family Relationships: Enjoy feeling connected
Friends & Social Settings: Take their time to warmup.
Timeliness: Always making plans
Jobs & Chores: Organise the details
Money Management: Plan, plan, plan
Recreational Activities: At their own pace
Learning Style: Gathering details
Classroom Behaviour: Sensitive to the environment
Study Habits: Detail gatherers
Challenges: Communication and a slower pace
Learning to Walk: Cautious and comfortable
Learning to Talk: Quieter, but still verbal
Toilet Training: A methodical experience
Sleeping: Need comfy, cozy spaces
Starting School: Hesitant, observe before getting involved
Baby Sitting: Need feelings validated
Dating: Prefer comfortable experience
High School Experience: Need to connect in advance
Driving: Responsible and cautious
- Baby 0 to 18 Months - Need to be validated for their gentle, sensitive nature and to be supported in starting to explore and sense the world around them
- Toddler 18 Months to 3 Years - Need support in sensing, exploring and doing in the world
- Pre-school 3 to 6 years - Coming into their own identity and power
- School Age 6 to 12 Years - Need to fit in, working with structure, knowledge and learning
- High School 12 to 18 Years - Seperating and creating independence from the family