The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, know that you do.
Power & Control Wheel
The Power & Control diagram is a particularly helpful tool in understanding the overall pattern of abusive and violent behaviors, which are used by a batterer to establish and maintain control over his partner. Very often, one or more violent incidents are accompanied by an array of these other types of abuse. They are less easily identified, yet firmly establish a pattern of intimidation and control in the relationship.
The Cycle of Violence
The cycle of violence depicts a pattern often experienced in abusive relationships. The three phases repeat over and over.