Born and raised in Dallas, Texas. I am currently 17 years old and a junior in high school. My dad is 100% Irish and my mom is a mix of everything, which means I am about 50% Irish and a little bit of everything else. I'm fairly shy, but the friends that I do have I consider very close. I enjoy spending time alone, or with family members and friends. I don't enjoy a lot of drama or activity, I like when things are right where I want them to be. I have three older siblings, a sister and two brothers, and two happily married parents whom I love very much. Everyone in my family is very hardworking and they think it's important that I learn that skill early in my life. My parents have owned a restaurant most of their entire life. They want me to always be able to support myself and know the value of the dollar. I work at my parents restaurant, and while I don't like getting up early on Sunday mornings it forces me to work with a whole spectrum of people, which has made me more tolerant and understanding of many different people. I'm very close with all three of my siblings even though two of them don't live in Dallas and are considerably older than me. When I leave high school I want to major in Marine Biology. I've wanted to do that since I was about 7 or 8 years old. My parents want me to go into the wine-making industry, but I know marine biology is what I want to do.
My Jojari Window
I think that the results I got from my Johari Window very accurately describe me. Most people put me as the things I described myself as, like mature, quiet, self conscious, and shy. There are many words that are in my "blind spot", however I would have chosen most of those words had I been given the chance to pick more than six words that describe me. Overall I think that this is a very good representation of my personality.
Jean Piaget Stages:
-Sensorimotor Period (Birth-2 years)
- In this stage, infants use senses and simple movements to understand and explore the world. Some key words for this stage are...
- Object Permanence - Assuming something is gone, because you can no longer see it.
- Separation Anxiety - Anxiety caused by separation from caregivers. I had a lot of separation anxiety when I was a baby. I would cry and scream when my mom tried to put me down, or even later when she would try and drop me off at Preschool.
- Assimilation - We create schemas, for example a child believing that all large furry animals are cows or that all round objects are bouncy balls.
-Pre-operational Period (2 years-7 years)
- In this stage the child is not yet able to think logically. The child is able to represent the world through mental images and symbols, but they depend on his/her own perception. The preoperational child is very egocentric. Although he/she is beginning to take greater interest in objects and people around him, he sees them from only his point of view. Some key words for this stage are...
- Animism - abstract/fantasy things, for example believing dragons exist, etc. I never really attributed any fantasy concepts to anything that was close to me like dolls, nor did I have any imaginary friends.
- Egocentrism - Not being able to see things from someone else's point of view. I was extremely egocentric when I was between the ages of 2-7 years old. I had a difficult time understanding the world around me, making me see everything from only my eyes.
- Lack of conservation & Reversability - Ability to understand conservation, like the same amount of water in two different sized glasses, and the ability to do something in reverse. As a child I was confused at the conservation between two different sized glasses of water and going in reverse. It took me until the next stage of my life to completely understand.
-Concrete Operational Period (7 years-12 years)
- In this stage the child is able to perform mental operations. Mental operations permit the child to think about physical actions that he or she previously performed. The preoperational child could count from one to ten, but the actual understanding that one stands for one object only appears in the stage of concrete operations. Some key concepts for this stage are...
- Decrease in centrism - you're able to make more sense of the world around you and are able to see things from outside perspectives.
- World is much more black and white/straight forward
-Formal Operational Period (12 years+)
- A kid in the formal operational period can think about the future, the abstract, the hypothetical. Piaget’s final stage marks the beginning of adolescence, and the start of abstract thought and deductive reasoning. Thought is more flexible, rational, and systematic. The individual can now conceive all the possible ways they can solve a problem, and can approach a problem from several points of view.
The adolescent can think about thoughts and “operate on operations, not just concrete objects. He or she can think about such abstract concepts as space and time. The adolescent develops an inner value system and a sense of moral judgment. He or she now has the necessary “mental tools” for living his life. Some concepts for this stage are...
- Abstract thought/theoretical thinking - Ability to think "outside the box."
- Ability to understand the concepts of reversibility and conservation.
- Ability to understand real world concepts and apply them.
Erik Erikson Stages:
- Trust vs. Mistrust (Birth-1 year)
- During this stage the infant is uncertain about the world in which they live. To resolve these feelings of uncertainty the infant looks towards their primary caregiver for stability and consistency of care. Everyone needs that sense of security.
2. Autonomy vs. Shame/doubt (1 year-3 years)
- During this stage the child is developing physically and becoming more mobile. They begin to assert their independence, for example by walking away from their mother, picking which toy to play with, and making choices as to what they like to wear or to eat. This stage impacted me a lot because I wanted to do everything by myself just the way I wanted it.
- During this stage it's important that the parents of the child encourage the child to become more autonomous so they become more confident and secure in their own abilities. This is one area where I feel my parents "failed" because I don't feel as if I was given much independence. That may be the reason that today I am very self-reserved and shy.
3. Initiative vs. Guilt (3 years-6 years)
- During this period children assert themselves more frequently. The primary feature involves the child regularly interacting with other children at school.
- Also during this stage, a child's "thirst" for knowledge grows making them more willing to ask questions to people.
4. Industry (competence) vs. Inferiority (6 years-puberty)
- At this stage children will be learning to read, write and make things on their own. They ask themselves the question "What am I good at?" and need to gain their sense of pride. For me I don't think that this part of me grew for quite some time, because all throughout my childhood I had self confidence issues and I didn't think I was good at anything. Now that i'm older I understand that this was never true, I just needed to gain that sense of pride and accomplishment.
5. Identity vs. Role Confusion (12 years-18 years)
- This is the stage where you ask yourself the questions "Who am I?" "Where am I going with my life?" "What do I want to do?" You could say it's the transition from childhood to adulthood. The children are becoming more independent, and begin to look into the future for a career, relationship, family, house, etc. A role confusion or identity crisis is where an adolescent may begin to experiment with different lifestyles. This is the stage that I am currently in where I look forward and try to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.
6. Intimacy vs. Isolation (young adulthood)
- This is the stage where we begin to share ourselves more intimately with others. We explore possible relationships that will lead toward longer term commitments with someone other than a family member. If you go through this stage successfully, you will be able to create a sense of commitment, safety, and care, but if you avoid this intimacy and commitment, then it may lead you to loneliness, and sometimes depression
7. Generativity vs. Stagnation/Self-Absorbtion (Middle adulthood)
- This is the stage where we ask ourselves "Am I completing the goals I set for myself?" and "Am I being productive with my life?"
- Where we establish our careers, settle down in a relationship, begin our own families, and become a part of the bigger picture.
- Failing to achieve objectives from this stage of life may lead to feeling stagnant and unproductive, while success in this stage will lead to the virtue of care.
8. Integrity vs. Despair (Senior adulthood - not necessarily)
- Where you ask yourself "Have I lived a full life?" or "Am I proud/confident about what I've accomplished?"
- Stage where we tend to slow down our productivity and explore retired life. Where we contemplate our accomplishments and develop integrity if we see ourselves living a successful life.
- Success in this stage will lead to wisdom, while failure in this stage will lead to us becoming dissatisfied with life and develop despair/depression/hopelessness.
Myers Briggs Kiersey
As an ISFP, my primary mode of living is focused internally, where I deal with things according to how I feel about them, and how they fit into my value system. My secondary mode is external, where I take things from my five senses literally. According to this personality test I live in the world of sensation possibilities and I'm more likely to choose a job/career that gives me the freedom of working towards the realization of my goals. I tend to be quiet and reserved and difficult to get to know well, which I think is completely true. I only give my ideas to the people I am closest to. I have a big sense of people's well-being and happiness, and put a great deal of effort into tasks I believe in. This test says I am likely to be an animal lover, which is true - I have 6 dogs. I am very perceptive and observant of others, I tend to gather information about people and seek to discover what it means. I am fairly good at making accurate perceptions of others even before meeting them. This says that I am likely to not give myself enough credit for the things I do extremely well, and I think that this is completely true. My Jungian functional preference ordering is below:
The Big Five
My Big Five test results determined that I am more closed-minded than open to new experiences. This means that I prefer traditional, familiar experiences. It says I tend to be conventional, down to earth, uncreative and have narrow interests. I am more disorganized than conscientious which means that I tend to do things more haphazardly. I am slightly undependable and negligent. I scored low on the Introverted - Extraverted scale, which means I enjoy spending quiet time alone. I tend to be reserved, inhibited, and quiet. It says that I am more towards the low side of the Disagreeable - Agreeable scale, which means that I find it easy to criticize others. I could be described as critical, rude, harsh, and callous. And lastly I scored fairly high on the Calm/Relaxed - Nervous/High-strung scale, which means that I am generally a very anxious person and tend to worry about things.
1. Did I have separation anxiety as a child? If so, what did I do?
Yes, I would scream and hang onto my leg when she tried to drop me off at preschool. When I was left at my grandparents house I would throw things at them until my mom came back to get me. This ended when I was about 4 years old.
2. Who was I attached to other than my primary caregivers?
I was very attached to my old nanny Mickey, and my mom's best friend April. Other than that I didn't really get attached to anyone.
3. Did I have a favorite toy, doll, etc that I was attached to and did I have a name for it?
I was very attached to a pink blanket that was given to me by my grandmother. It was silky and smooth. I never had a name for it. I wasn't extremely sentimental as a child, so I didn't get attached to things easily.
4. Was I good with numbers as a kid? (Math - +)
Yes, I loved playing with flash cards and would always have my parents quiz me on my multiplication tables. This was around the age of 4.
5. Did I ever have any imaginary friends? If so, what did I do with them/ say to them?
I never had nor wanted any imaginary friends as a kid.
6. Was I fair when playing with others?
I was very fair, because I had three older siblings who basically forced me to play fair. I learned what was right and what was wrong at an early age.
7. When did you notice that I was able to group things together and make sense of them?
When I was in Pre-K (about 3-4 years old). I wanted to sort everything - colors, animals, etc. I used to line up all of my beanie babies by color on my dresser.
8. When did you notice that I was able to understand the world around me/ ask deeper questions?
I was a very introspective child, so this didn't happen until very late for me - about 10 years old. I was very "self-absorbed", I never payed any attention to things. This is part of the reason why I have such bad sense of direction today - because when my parents would take me places, I wouldn't pay any attention to where I was or where I was going.
9. Were other adults able to hold me without getting me upset? If so, who?
My grandparents and a few of my mom's coworkers were able to hold me. If I didn't want to be picked up by someone, I would scream, cry, and try to get away.
10. Do you think the reason I'm shy today is because I wasn't given much autonomy as a child? Explain.
No, I was given lots of independence as a child. My mom always let me pick out my own clothes (which didn't ever turn out well), and I could decide what I wanted to eat. I made a lot of decisions on my own. In a way I think this had a positive effect on me because it made me able to make some difficult decisions.
11. Was I stubborn as a kid? If so, explain.
Yes, I was very stubborn growing up. I had to have everything go my way or I would burst into tears. One year when I was in second grade around Christmas time I got the Flu and I never wanted to take any medicine. I would either throw it up, hide it, or spit it out. If I didn't take my medicine my mom would take away my presents one by one. I ended up having to go to the doctor's office to get a shot because I refused to take my medicine.
12. When did you notice me (or did you notice me at all) gaining leadership qualities?
Around 1st or 2nd grade (6-7 years). I wanted people to follow me around and do what I said. I wanted to be the leader all the time and have people do what I do in our playgroups. I would sometimes boss people around.
13. Explain when you saw me become more independent.
In junior high - I no longer wanted to be seen with my parents and I strived to be "cool" in front of my friends. I wanted to make a lot more decisions on my own.
14. Who do you think I am, and what do you think made me like that? Explain.
I'm pretty much a 50/50 split between my parents. I get things like self-consciousness, lack of confidence, compassion for others, and empathy from my mom and unawareness of my surroundings, insensitivity, analytical thinking from my dad.
15. Do you ever see me getting married in the future? To what kind of person?
Yes, to a person that will make me laugh and will be my best friend.
16. What kind of parent do you see me being? Will I be a lot like you or will I do my own thing?
I'm going to be an easy-going parent. No tiny details, I'll always be able to see the bigger picture. I may think that I'm going to do my own thing now, but when I'm older i'll realize how great of a job my parents did in raising my siblings and I. I will most likely end up doing what they've done, except changing some things.
17. Do you see me at 75 years old looking back and being happy about what I've done? Explain.
I'm going to look back at my life and be slightly disappointed and wish I had done more, but I feel like the things that I have done I will look back at and be happy about.