Got a Problem? Help is on the way.........
Choices You Can Make
- Tell them to stop: If another student is bothering you, ask them politely to stop. Communicate and let them know how you feel.
- Walk away. Instead of getting into an argument with another student, it is better to just walk away if possible.
- Ignore it. Sometimes things can be ignored instead of getting into an argument or tattle-telling on another student.
- Wait and cool off. Don't say anything that you will regret or will get you in trouble. If you are really upset, take time to cool off before you talk it out.
- Talk it out. This is the best solution whenever possible. By talking it out in a nice manner, it keeps yourself and others from getting more upset. Always try to get along with others and always keep good character.
- Apologize. We all have said or done things we didn't mean. An apology goes a long way. If someone is brave enough to apologize, you should accept the apology and start fresh.
Make connections. Have there been situations where you have used any of the conflict resolution skills listed above? Talk it out. How did it make you feel? How did the person you had the conflict with feel afterwards?
Things to Remember:
The Magic of Three
1. Try three choices above.
2. If they don't work, see an adult. Be ready to explain what you have tried.
Happy Problem Solving!
......and by the way,
Week 2: Conflict Resolution
Review conflict resolution strategies by having students share their definition of each skill below.
1. Tell them to Stop: 4. Wait and Cool Off:
2. Walk Away: 5. Talk it Out:
3. Ignore It: 6. Apologize:
Both the teacher and students can share their observations of students successfully using the strategies above. Make these conflict resolution skills a daily focus. Students can redirect to the Kelso Wheel when in need. Choose a conflict resolution skill when the opportunity presents itself in the classroom, hallway, recess, cafeteria, or at home.
Real Life Issue:
If we think we'll get in trouble, we may be afraid to be honest. Sometimes this causes us to be dishonest or lie. How can lying cause us to get into bigger trouble? Give an example.
LESSON 3: Conflict Resolution
1. Review how to make/accept an apology from someone.
2. Review Kelso strategies. Discuss ways to make sure you are doing them correctly without being mean or inappropriate.
*Tell them to Stop *Wait and Cool Off:
*Walk Away: *Talk it Out:
*Ignore It *Apologize:
3. Discuss what you would do if you were trying to talk in your group and people were not listening to you.
4. What would you do if someone made fun of you in your group?
ACTIVITY - REAL LIFE ISSUE
Sit on the carpet, legs crossed, knee to knee. Stare at someone for 20 seconds. The teacher will track your time. NO TALKING. Just stare.
How did it make you feel when you were being stared at? Did you feel uncomfortable?
Many times we hear students tell their teachers that "someone's looking at me!"
Is it okay to stare?